This month, we've been tackling the emotional issue of manners. Why emotional? Well, when you're treated rudely--by a kid or a parent--it makes you mad. When your kid is rude, it makes you embarrassed (okay, and maybe a little mad, too). And when we're rude, well, sometimes we never even get to the point of realizing our faux pas until it's too late.
So far, we've discussed playdate and birthday party etiquette. A yawnfest? Not if the parents on my non-scientific survey were any indication. This issue really gets the tempers churning, so listen up as we take on the final topic.
Overnight stays.
Do you remember your first sleepover? I do. I was four, I had the dingiest white bunny with golden wings named "Angel Bunny," and my sleeping bag was Rainbow Bright. It was fun. I missed my mommy. I had a great time. I was ready to go home. End of story.
I have no idea how I acted, but I do know my mom's always been big on the manners. So here's a list of things a parent might think about before sending that kiddo anywhere overnight, whether it be Grandma's house or a sleepover party.
Set the tone...If you are dropping your children off, go over your ground rules for behavior before they ever step into someone else's home. This includes reminding them of good manners (don't go exploring on their own, say "please" and "thank you," and listen to what the other parent has to say). Tell them that rules are different at different houses, but that being loud, destructive, or disrespectful will keep them from enjoying this opportunity again. If you're the one hosting, go over the rules with your child before guests arrive and again after the party animals are present. So what if the kids think you're "not fun." What you are ensuring is that everyone will have fun.
Be responsible...If you are dropping off your child, make certain to leave an emergency number and any specific instructions (food allergies, anyone?). If your child does need some special consideration, a phone call before the sleepover may make more of an impression. If you are hosting, put a list of phone numbers together as soon as possible, so as to keep you from scrambling in an emergency situation!
Expect a little fun...Kids are going to eat junk at sleepovers. It's anticipated. It's expected. They are not going to sleep well (and they certainly aren't going to go to bed on time). Deal with it. It's part of the process. And then have a little fun!
Pick up...Last but certainly not least, this seemed to be a big deal to most of the parents. Remind your children to help pick up toys, dishes, whatever. Tell them they will likely be a welcome guest if they do so and it's a way of thanking the party host. Worse come to worse, you can bribe them. I know. I've just lost my parenting gold star for the day by suggesting that, but at the risk of leaving a bad taste in the host's mouth, tell your kid you will reward him or her for good behavior.
Finally, for a great sleepover survival guide, click here. Otherwise, go forth and visit. Just remember, repeat performances are only requested if the first one was good.
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