It's Turkey day. Yes, today I will stuff myself silly, because 1) I don't get turkey dinners cooked by my talented mother-in-law (insert brownie points here) everyday, and 2) calories don't count on Thanksgiving. Didn't you know?
And I really enjoy my family. I really, really do. Both my husband's side and mine have endeared themselves over the past several years by loving on my sweet kiddos and helping out when they can, and that just makes me all fuzzy wuzzy inside and on the prowl for the perfect way to thank them for all the loving attention. I mean, jeez, my kids are pretty darn cute, but I've seen how they act with a little refined sugar. That's means I'm very grateful for everyone's help.
So how do I communicate that? Well, with an advanced degree in communication, you'd think I'd just know how to express my thanks perfectly, right? No, I'm much better with delivering helpful information and sometimes even sarcastic humor. But gratitude? There's got a be a perfect way to let someone know it.
So, here are my four, un-scientific methods for telling someone in your family, "Thanks," with no purchase necessary.
Say it. In the next few days, I'll have the opportunity to see a number of my family members. And maybe I'm a better writer than a speaker, but there's nothing wrong with the personal touch of going straight up to a person and telling him or her exactly why you appreciate them. Sometimes, I think it's easy to get caught up on the ways we don't think family members are perfect. And just remembering why you value them, even one single detail, might help you remember that we all have "hard to love" moments.
Write it. Oh yes. All that handwriting practice in grade school can finally come in handy when it comes to delivering a note. Sure, you can send a thank you by email, on Facebook, or even one of those nifty little e-cards. But there is something about getting an envelope with your name on it, either through the mail or at the dinner table, with a note that someone took the time to scribble just for you. And as a bonus, unlike spoken words, written words can be read over and over, remembered time and again.
Show it. As a writer, I'm not so fond of the saying, "A picture's worth a thousand words." I don't actually believe that's true all the time, although, visuals can affect people in deep, emotional ways. That being said, a more unique way to say thanks beyond the common note card would be to dig up a picture from a trip or get-together containing a happy memory of you and a family member. On the back of the picture, write a brief note (that's right, you're not getting out of the writing part!) and tell them why the memory is so special to you.
Do it. Okay, so I said this wouldn't cost anything. Actually, I said these were practically free ideas. So here's where the practically comes in. Time is one of the most valuable things in our society. With the internet, activities, family commitments, work, television, (deep breath), sporting events, Christmas shopping etc. etc., having time to spend one-on-one with a family member comes at a high price. But there is nothing, NOTHING, like giving your time to go do something with a family member--going out to eat, watching a movie, shopping, whatever. Because, at the end of the day, you might discover that the more you give, the more you receive.
And that, my friends, is the spirit of the season.
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Thursday, November 28, 2013
Thursday, November 14, 2013
Giving Thanks Part II - Giving to yourself (and your community) by patronizing local business
I don't know if you've driven down Broadway lately, but there's something about living in a town with such a vibrant array of small businesses. Not many cities have a bustling "old town" charm anymore, and Edmond, with all its growth and amenities, offers up the new while still giving residents a taste of the old.
But did you know that where you spend your money has a direct impact on this town? Most cities, like Edmond, depend on sales tax dollars to provide many, if not most, of their services, including public safety (police and fire), business development, and parks and city-wide events, as well as other critical services.
Toni Weinmeister, Associate Director of the Edmond Economic Development Authority, says that shopping in Edmond is a direct act of giving back to your community, because your dollars help fund the city. Frequenting local "mom and pop" stores, as well as franchises located within Edmond, helps not only with funding, but also benefits the local residents who own these businesses. And even shopping online at a business with an Edmond store will result in sales tax dollars going to the city (sorry folks, that does not include Amazon). Places like Target, Walmart, and many others all qualify.
And speaking of "mom and pop" stores, don't be afraid to go and check some of the smaller ones out. Edmond has a wide variety, and while small businesses sometimes have a reputation for having higher prices, that simply is not always the case. For instance, a new local business, Tenz, sells women's clothing and accessories for ten dollars.
Lisa Wheeler, owner of Tenz, says that opening a small, local business can be challenging, especially when competing with national chains, but she loves the sense of community in a town like Edmond. "One of our goals is giving back to the community by offering affordable clothing."
And she's just one of many store owners or managers who love serving the Edmond community. Ben Hoza, a manager at The Meat House, says, "We love the Edmond community and supporting the many events that make this area wonderful." The business, which offers a variety of fresh food options as well as catering, celebrates it second anniversary this month.
So, when you're getting ready to spend those dollars this holiday season, pause for a moment to consider where you want your dollars to go. Because by giving a local business your business, you might just be able to say "Thanks" in the best possible way.
But did you know that where you spend your money has a direct impact on this town? Most cities, like Edmond, depend on sales tax dollars to provide many, if not most, of their services, including public safety (police and fire), business development, and parks and city-wide events, as well as other critical services.
Toni Weinmeister, Associate Director of the Edmond Economic Development Authority, says that shopping in Edmond is a direct act of giving back to your community, because your dollars help fund the city. Frequenting local "mom and pop" stores, as well as franchises located within Edmond, helps not only with funding, but also benefits the local residents who own these businesses. And even shopping online at a business with an Edmond store will result in sales tax dollars going to the city (sorry folks, that does not include Amazon). Places like Target, Walmart, and many others all qualify.
And speaking of "mom and pop" stores, don't be afraid to go and check some of the smaller ones out. Edmond has a wide variety, and while small businesses sometimes have a reputation for having higher prices, that simply is not always the case. For instance, a new local business, Tenz, sells women's clothing and accessories for ten dollars.
Lisa Wheeler, owner of Tenz, says that opening a small, local business can be challenging, especially when competing with national chains, but she loves the sense of community in a town like Edmond. "One of our goals is giving back to the community by offering affordable clothing."
And she's just one of many store owners or managers who love serving the Edmond community. Ben Hoza, a manager at The Meat House, says, "We love the Edmond community and supporting the many events that make this area wonderful." The business, which offers a variety of fresh food options as well as catering, celebrates it second anniversary this month.
So, when you're getting ready to spend those dollars this holiday season, pause for a moment to consider where you want your dollars to go. Because by giving a local business your business, you might just be able to say "Thanks" in the best possible way.
Thursday, August 29, 2013
Keeping your head level this fall – Stress busting advice for every super parent
September is
just around the corner! And with the fall season comes a flurry
of activity, culminating in the fun-filled (but stress-inducing) holiday
season. But before you grab that paper bag and start hyperventilating, let me
tell you something: I’m here to help.
Okay, not me exactly. In fact, I might qualify as the poster child for “How Not to Handle Fall Anxiety.” But the good thing is, as your local, just-a-little-on-the-right-side-of-crazy mommy blogger, I’ve got some people on my speed-dial who know how to help fretful parents calm the heck down. So, here are some tips from your local stress experts. Breathe in...breathe out...
Work it out. Taking time away from, well, everything for a little physical fitness may seem selfish, but Patrick Wellington, a personal trainer and Fitness Director of Key Health Institute of Edmond (formerly Transformation Fitness), argues, “If you prioritize your health, it helps you be a better parent. Taking time to work out will help you do all your other priorities better by improving your mood, energy and patience.”
Physical activity such as yoga, Wellington says, and any other exercise that helps regulate breathing or offers mental meditation time (such as running), are especially useful for managing stress. He said instead of overdoing your workout once or twice a week, spend a little time being active each day, because “Something is always better than nothing.” (For a list of yoga centers in Edmond, click here.)
Eat your way to Zen. “The right diet or snack can often make the difference between coping smoothly under pressure and falling to pieces,” says Paula Partlow, a registered and licensed dietitian at Banister and Associates.
That means that when we are faced with an overwhelming schedule of activities and ever-growing to-do list, one thing we can control is what goes in and out of our body. When it comes to stress, Partlow gives very specific advice for keeping the body at a peak level, which includes drinking plenty of water, eating fiber-rich fruits and vegetables throughout the day, starting the day off with breakfast to avoid over-eating and crashing later on, and eating at least two daily servings of good quality lean protein, such as skinless chicken or turkey, fish, lean beef, or eggs and peanuts for non-meat options.
And although the weather is chillier and the celebrating is stepping up, she suggests limiting alcohol, sugar and caffeine, which dehydrate and are filled with empty calories. Putting good things in, in the long run, helps the mind and body deal with change and busy schedules.
Be better together. One of the best ways to take on the stresses of a new school year is working together as a family to talk to one another about expectations and figuring out what needs to be handled when. Jackie Shaw, a licensed therapist and Executive Director of Edmond Family Counseling, says, “Preparation and communication tend to go hand-in-hand in easing stress and helping improve our outlook on our ability to cope with new events.”
A new school year brings change, which is stressful for anyone at any age. Yet, families in harmony can go a long way to making this time of year fun. “I have found that the children and parents who have the easiest transitions are those who work together to make the future exciting and fulfilling,” Shaw adds.
So, just remember, as a parent, you set the tone for the fall and holiday season. But, don’t let that be another stressor. Instead, let it make you determined to take care of your body and mind and enjoy all the wonderful things this time of year has to offer!
Okay, not me exactly. In fact, I might qualify as the poster child for “How Not to Handle Fall Anxiety.” But the good thing is, as your local, just-a-little-on-the-right-side-of-crazy mommy blogger, I’ve got some people on my speed-dial who know how to help fretful parents calm the heck down. So, here are some tips from your local stress experts. Breathe in...breathe out...
Work it out. Taking time away from, well, everything for a little physical fitness may seem selfish, but Patrick Wellington, a personal trainer and Fitness Director of Key Health Institute of Edmond (formerly Transformation Fitness), argues, “If you prioritize your health, it helps you be a better parent. Taking time to work out will help you do all your other priorities better by improving your mood, energy and patience.”
Physical activity such as yoga, Wellington says, and any other exercise that helps regulate breathing or offers mental meditation time (such as running), are especially useful for managing stress. He said instead of overdoing your workout once or twice a week, spend a little time being active each day, because “Something is always better than nothing.” (For a list of yoga centers in Edmond, click here.)
Eat your way to Zen. “The right diet or snack can often make the difference between coping smoothly under pressure and falling to pieces,” says Paula Partlow, a registered and licensed dietitian at Banister and Associates.
That means that when we are faced with an overwhelming schedule of activities and ever-growing to-do list, one thing we can control is what goes in and out of our body. When it comes to stress, Partlow gives very specific advice for keeping the body at a peak level, which includes drinking plenty of water, eating fiber-rich fruits and vegetables throughout the day, starting the day off with breakfast to avoid over-eating and crashing later on, and eating at least two daily servings of good quality lean protein, such as skinless chicken or turkey, fish, lean beef, or eggs and peanuts for non-meat options.
And although the weather is chillier and the celebrating is stepping up, she suggests limiting alcohol, sugar and caffeine, which dehydrate and are filled with empty calories. Putting good things in, in the long run, helps the mind and body deal with change and busy schedules.
Be better together. One of the best ways to take on the stresses of a new school year is working together as a family to talk to one another about expectations and figuring out what needs to be handled when. Jackie Shaw, a licensed therapist and Executive Director of Edmond Family Counseling, says, “Preparation and communication tend to go hand-in-hand in easing stress and helping improve our outlook on our ability to cope with new events.”
A new school year brings change, which is stressful for anyone at any age. Yet, families in harmony can go a long way to making this time of year fun. “I have found that the children and parents who have the easiest transitions are those who work together to make the future exciting and fulfilling,” Shaw adds.
So, just remember, as a parent, you set the tone for the fall and holiday season. But, don’t let that be another stressor. Instead, let it make you determined to take care of your body and mind and enjoy all the wonderful things this time of year has to offer!
Thursday, August 22, 2013
Play by the rules and don't sing the school bus blues
School is officially back! And all the parents say, "Let's get this party
started." Take the kids to the curb, put them on the big yellow bus, and blow a
kiss, because it's learning time!
Now, I have little, little ones, so my experience with the school bus consists of, well, nothing, unless you count the times I try to race it
around the neighborhood on my morning runs (spoiler alert: I always lose).
However, in the interest of fulfilling the duties of a proper mommy blogger and
because I've seen some nasty footage of bus behavior on television
(yikes!), I decided to take on the issue of how to deal with certain
school bus situations, which, I hope, can result in a more positive experience
for everyone.
Fortunately, Steve Nola from Deer Creek Public Schools, gave me some sound advice for both newbies and bus-riding veterans.
If you're new...
And for everyone...
Now, I have little, little ones, so my experience with the school bus consists of, well, nothing, unless you count the times I try to race it
around the neighborhood on my morning runs (spoiler alert: I always lose).
However, in the interest of fulfilling the duties of a proper mommy blogger and
because I've seen some nasty footage of bus behavior on television
(yikes!), I decided to take on the issue of how to deal with certain
school bus situations, which, I hope, can result in a more positive experience
for everyone. Fortunately, Steve Nola from Deer Creek Public Schools, gave me some sound advice for both newbies and bus-riding veterans.
If you're new...
- Map it. Make sure your child knows where the bus stop is and how to get home from there. A practice walk is never a bad thing (and burns calories--bonus!).
- Go over the rules. Sit down with your child and talk about appropriate behavior. You know the Ben Franklin saying: "An ounce of prevention..."
- There are no stupid questions. Kids should know that they are always welcome to ask the driver any question.
- Hi! My name is... "New kids might want to introduce themselves to the driver," Nola says, "as that makes it a little less uncomfortable being in the strange cheese box." (By the way, LOVE that name for the bus. My preschooler is already using it exclusively.)
And for everyone...
- If you can't do it in your parents car...it's probably a no no on the bus too. This includes fighting, wrestling, swearing, touching another student, screaming, and inappropriate conversation. "Ninety-nine percent of the bus drivers will tell you that any behavior that takes the eyes of the driver off the road, longer than one to two seconds, is unacceptable," Nola adds.
- If you're child is having an issue with another student...don't hesitate to speak to the driver. They can address the issue and take it further, through the appropriate channels, if need be.
- If you're having an issue with the driver or transportation in general...take it to the head of transportation. It's best to avoid the middle man and communicate directly to someone who can handle the situation. If that doesn't solve the problem, someone in charge of communicating with parents can address it sooner than the superintendent, so check out your school system's staff to find who might be your best advocate.
Thursday, August 15, 2013
What a chore! Getting things done around the house - Mary Poppins style
"With every job that must be done there is an element of fun."
Well, Mary Poppins, you try telling that to my kiddos, who, try as they might, have not been able to get their beds to make themselves at the snap of a finger. I too have tried that particular trick on the dishes and laundry and can safely say that no matter how big my smile, the result of snapping fingers is a big, fat nothing.
Yet, I do believe that getting stuff done around the house can be fun. For myself, I've implemented a few techniques that have had relatively positive results for me. This includes playing boogie-worthy music in the kitchen (downside being that the boogying becomes a distraction), timing myself (downside being my frustration when I realize spaghetti sauce has emblazoned itself on the microwave, and I won't be beating that timer any time soon), and talking to my mom/sister/friends on the phone (downside being that my Bluetooth has disappeared into the bowels of my mini van, and the cell phone doesn't fare so well after being dropped in the toilet).
But I have kids! Yes! Free labor (do not tell DHS I said so). Of course, two kids under the age of four do not good helpers make. I mean, yes, they like to help, but I'm going to be honest and tell you they're not so good at it. The only thing my preschooler wants to Windex is my toddler, so I've decided to keep their chores strictly to picking up. But that didn't keep me from hunting down ways to get kids interested--and even excited--about lending a helping hand.
1. Chart it. Visit Goal For It, where you can design a cute, free chore chart. Not sure how to get the kids going on it? Erin Griffith, Edmond mom of four kiddos, gave me the following helpful advice:
"Our oldest three kids have "Responsibility & Commitment" charts. THEY choose three age appropriate, task oriented chores (i.e., read book, make bed, empty dishwasher, feed dogs, brush teeth, practice instrument, etc.) and WE choose two character oriented (shared toys, serve others, positive attitude, be helpful, etc.). At the end of the day, we place magnets according to performance. These charts never have to be perfect, but rather, we are trying to instill a strong work ethic and sense of family responsibility. They also serve as a good tool in earning their weekly activities."
2. Ready, set, go! My timer idea is not original, as I found out while searching online and conversing with Griffith, the super mom of four. Kids love to compete, especially when prizes are involved. You don't have to pit them against each other; just give your kids a goal with a prize in mind. And prizes don't have to be big deals either. Ice cream, popsicles, or "we get to go outside and play family basketball when this is done" is all that's required.
3. Do it together, and don't forget to take a break. Nothing says family like accomplishing things together while having a fun time. So turn up the music or talk while you do dishes, fold laundry, or clean windows. And don't overdo it! From my own experience growing up, keeping up with chores throughout the week felt so much better (and doable) than a four-hour cleaning extravaganza on Saturday morning. Remind those kids if you can get the work done during the week, they will have more free time available for the weekend. This is a lesson that will stick with them for years to come.
Want more ideas? Check out a great ehow.com article here.
Well, Mary Poppins, you try telling that to my kiddos, who, try as they might, have not been able to get their beds to make themselves at the snap of a finger. I too have tried that particular trick on the dishes and laundry and can safely say that no matter how big my smile, the result of snapping fingers is a big, fat nothing.
Yet, I do believe that getting stuff done around the house can be fun. For myself, I've implemented a few techniques that have had relatively positive results for me. This includes playing boogie-worthy music in the kitchen (downside being that the boogying becomes a distraction), timing myself (downside being my frustration when I realize spaghetti sauce has emblazoned itself on the microwave, and I won't be beating that timer any time soon), and talking to my mom/sister/friends on the phone (downside being that my Bluetooth has disappeared into the bowels of my mini van, and the cell phone doesn't fare so well after being dropped in the toilet).
But I have kids! Yes! Free labor (do not tell DHS I said so). Of course, two kids under the age of four do not good helpers make. I mean, yes, they like to help, but I'm going to be honest and tell you they're not so good at it. The only thing my preschooler wants to Windex is my toddler, so I've decided to keep their chores strictly to picking up. But that didn't keep me from hunting down ways to get kids interested--and even excited--about lending a helping hand.
1. Chart it. Visit Goal For It, where you can design a cute, free chore chart. Not sure how to get the kids going on it? Erin Griffith, Edmond mom of four kiddos, gave me the following helpful advice:
"Our oldest three kids have "Responsibility & Commitment" charts. THEY choose three age appropriate, task oriented chores (i.e., read book, make bed, empty dishwasher, feed dogs, brush teeth, practice instrument, etc.) and WE choose two character oriented (shared toys, serve others, positive attitude, be helpful, etc.). At the end of the day, we place magnets according to performance. These charts never have to be perfect, but rather, we are trying to instill a strong work ethic and sense of family responsibility. They also serve as a good tool in earning their weekly activities."
2. Ready, set, go! My timer idea is not original, as I found out while searching online and conversing with Griffith, the super mom of four. Kids love to compete, especially when prizes are involved. You don't have to pit them against each other; just give your kids a goal with a prize in mind. And prizes don't have to be big deals either. Ice cream, popsicles, or "we get to go outside and play family basketball when this is done" is all that's required.
3. Do it together, and don't forget to take a break. Nothing says family like accomplishing things together while having a fun time. So turn up the music or talk while you do dishes, fold laundry, or clean windows. And don't overdo it! From my own experience growing up, keeping up with chores throughout the week felt so much better (and doable) than a four-hour cleaning extravaganza on Saturday morning. Remind those kids if you can get the work done during the week, they will have more free time available for the weekend. This is a lesson that will stick with them for years to come.
Want more ideas? Check out a great ehow.com article here.
Thursday, August 8, 2013
Getting kids ready part two - First day jitter fixers
Last week I had some talented teachers give you the lowdown on preparing your kids to ease back into the school year. And you're grateful, I know. ;-) But whether your kiddo is bouncing off the walls with excitement to go back or facing you down with a pouty lip, saying, "I'm not feeling well," you know the first day of school can be high on the anxiety charts for even the most fluttery social butterfly.
Well, after cornering my usual posse of moms, as well as digging around in my friends' childhoods (at least, I think they're still my friends after frequent interrogations!), I've got a few suggestions for making the very first day of school a winner.
1. Talk to me. That's right, talking makes the world go 'round (not money, in case you were confused). Nothing's better than reminding your kids how much fun they had last year, how much fun they'll have this year, and bringing up any special times that will have them thinking: "This school thing--it's not so bad."
2. How do you do? Most schools have an open house or similar event to give your children the chance to be introduced to their teacher and classroom before the first day. A familiar face goes a long way to reducing social anxiety, so don't skip this.
3. The more the merrier. Why can't the first day be a special event? Maybe coordinate with a best friend's parent so your child can arrive at school with a buddy. Two's company!
4. Make a note. Be that crazy mom or dad who puts a note in the backpack or lunchbox. Get creative and go beyond the sweet "Love ya," and write about your favorite summer memory or why you think your kid is so awesome. Boosting confidence or reminding your children how much they mean to you makes the world a more manageable place for them.
5. Talk to me - again. And when they get home...listen. Ask questions that demand more than a "yes" or "no" answer, and look for the emotions under the words. With a little patience, even the most reluctant child may eventually spill the beans about anything that bothered him or her. I mean, I still call my momma after a challenging day. At any age, a hug and words of encouragement are priceless.
Well, after cornering my usual posse of moms, as well as digging around in my friends' childhoods (at least, I think they're still my friends after frequent interrogations!), I've got a few suggestions for making the very first day of school a winner.
1. Talk to me. That's right, talking makes the world go 'round (not money, in case you were confused). Nothing's better than reminding your kids how much fun they had last year, how much fun they'll have this year, and bringing up any special times that will have them thinking: "This school thing--it's not so bad."
2. How do you do? Most schools have an open house or similar event to give your children the chance to be introduced to their teacher and classroom before the first day. A familiar face goes a long way to reducing social anxiety, so don't skip this.
3. The more the merrier. Why can't the first day be a special event? Maybe coordinate with a best friend's parent so your child can arrive at school with a buddy. Two's company!
4. Make a note. Be that crazy mom or dad who puts a note in the backpack or lunchbox. Get creative and go beyond the sweet "Love ya," and write about your favorite summer memory or why you think your kid is so awesome. Boosting confidence or reminding your children how much they mean to you makes the world a more manageable place for them.
5. Talk to me - again. And when they get home...listen. Ask questions that demand more than a "yes" or "no" answer, and look for the emotions under the words. With a little patience, even the most reluctant child may eventually spill the beans about anything that bothered him or her. I mean, I still call my momma after a challenging day. At any age, a hug and words of encouragement are priceless.
Thursday, July 4, 2013
My wishlist for my children's America - On Independence Day
Many of us have much to be thankful for in this country. It would be hard for anyone to deny that it is, in general, a great place to live. It's not that we don't have people living in poverty, because we do. It's not that we don't have hate and bigotry; we've got that too. It's not perfect. But on Independence Day, we can be grateful for quite a bit. We should be grateful to those who gave their lives to make this a country; to the men and women who fought for race and gender equality; and to those who work to ensure we all have the right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. These are battles that still rage. But at least we get to fight them.
I'm a little obsessed with dystopian novels right now (think Hunger Games, 1984, This Perfect Day, Legend, and Divergent). I had to take a break so my paranoia would die down and my husband would stop giving me the raised-eyebrow look. But I'm obsessed with what our country will look like a hundred or so years from now. I'm fascinated by the possibilities for technology, but also the change in political and global climate. But of course, I won't be alive to worry about it. However, my kids and grandkids (and so on) will inherit what we make of our country today, so I have ten wishes for the America that will be theirs.
1. A country where everyone has a voice. Race and gender are no longer hurdles for voting, but representation of women and many minority groups is still way down in state and Federal government. We need to raise up politicians who really want to serve, of both genders and all races.
2. A country with top-notch education. The reports of our children falling behind others in the world is disheartening. We're a bright bunch. Public schools and universities must continue to improve and innovate to stay ahead of the game.
3. A country that understands its stewardship of the environment. We've only got one planet. Best not to screw that up!
4. A country that still rewards innovation and hard work. We have a rich history of talented inventors and entrepreneurs, and we need education and job opportunities that will help discover those brilliant individuals in the next generation.
5. A country that celebrates its soldiers and public servants. My brother gets deployed next month, and I'm thrilled to be living in a country that supports and honors our soldiers and their families, even if they disagree with what they are sent to do. Although federal employees get a bad rap sometimes, it's important to remember they too work hard to make this country a better place to live.
6. A country where anyone can dream big. Whether you were born in a box or a mansion, this is a country where every child has the chance to dream about bettering his or her circumstances. Let's keep is that way! (Refer to numbers 3 and 4 above.)
7. A country that has more love than hate to give. "Love your neighbor as yourself" says it all.
8. A country that cares about the downtrodden. Bad luck, bad decisions, natural disasters, and ill-timed deaths can all affect someone's circumstances. We have typically been a country with big hearts (both here and abroad). Personally, I believe that's why we're blessed.
9. A country that has powerful allies. Oh, Mr. Snowden. You little stinker. Why are you tearing us down? We need our allies. We do.
10. A country that is a positive force for the rest of the world. Giving to the poor. Holding to a high standard in war and peace. A technological and economic powerhouse. A government that is an example for others. Lofty ideals, I know. But we are capable of them all.
Now, I just have to do my part to make it come true.
I'm a little obsessed with dystopian novels right now (think Hunger Games, 1984, This Perfect Day, Legend, and Divergent). I had to take a break so my paranoia would die down and my husband would stop giving me the raised-eyebrow look. But I'm obsessed with what our country will look like a hundred or so years from now. I'm fascinated by the possibilities for technology, but also the change in political and global climate. But of course, I won't be alive to worry about it. However, my kids and grandkids (and so on) will inherit what we make of our country today, so I have ten wishes for the America that will be theirs.
1. A country where everyone has a voice. Race and gender are no longer hurdles for voting, but representation of women and many minority groups is still way down in state and Federal government. We need to raise up politicians who really want to serve, of both genders and all races.
2. A country with top-notch education. The reports of our children falling behind others in the world is disheartening. We're a bright bunch. Public schools and universities must continue to improve and innovate to stay ahead of the game.
3. A country that understands its stewardship of the environment. We've only got one planet. Best not to screw that up!
4. A country that still rewards innovation and hard work. We have a rich history of talented inventors and entrepreneurs, and we need education and job opportunities that will help discover those brilliant individuals in the next generation.
5. A country that celebrates its soldiers and public servants. My brother gets deployed next month, and I'm thrilled to be living in a country that supports and honors our soldiers and their families, even if they disagree with what they are sent to do. Although federal employees get a bad rap sometimes, it's important to remember they too work hard to make this country a better place to live.
6. A country where anyone can dream big. Whether you were born in a box or a mansion, this is a country where every child has the chance to dream about bettering his or her circumstances. Let's keep is that way! (Refer to numbers 3 and 4 above.)
7. A country that has more love than hate to give. "Love your neighbor as yourself" says it all.
8. A country that cares about the downtrodden. Bad luck, bad decisions, natural disasters, and ill-timed deaths can all affect someone's circumstances. We have typically been a country with big hearts (both here and abroad). Personally, I believe that's why we're blessed.
9. A country that has powerful allies. Oh, Mr. Snowden. You little stinker. Why are you tearing us down? We need our allies. We do.
10. A country that is a positive force for the rest of the world. Giving to the poor. Holding to a high standard in war and peace. A technological and economic powerhouse. A government that is an example for others. Lofty ideals, I know. But we are capable of them all.
Now, I just have to do my part to make it come true.
Thursday, June 27, 2013
Long winter hours bring summer baby showers - Five ideas for the perfect gift
It’s a fact that more babies are born in the summer
(July and August, particularly) than in any other season, according to the
most recent data from the National Center for Health Statistics. What does that
mean for those of us with friends in the child production phase? It's shower time.
I will admit to having my fill of rattle-shaped cookies and
rubber ducky confetti, but it is pretty special to see a gal all glowing and
excited over the arrival of a new life. However, when it's time to sit down and "ooooh" and "aaahhh" over baby gifts, I'm always left wondering, "Did I bring the right thing?"
Sure, you can never go wrong with a packet of
onesies covered in the prerequisite bows/dinosaurs/ducks/elephants/flowers/monkeys/etc., but what does a new mommy
really need? I tapped into my rather large
posse of moms to find the answer.
1. Registry items
– Of course, this is a surefire way to please new momma, but what if the only thing left on the registry are milk storage bags OR the fifty-dollar spa baby bath tub? Hmmm.
Not so excited about your options? Read on.
2. Clothes
– Itsy bitsy clothes get a lot of "awwws" from both new mom and the guests, especially for a first baby or a baby of a
different gender from the first. However, if you’re a baby shower newbie, I
might give a few words of advice here. Tutus and sunglasses are awesome. However, they are not so
useful. So maybe buy one tutu and then something more practical, like a hat,
onesie, or sleeper (which means pajamas in babyland). Also, baby shoes? Adorable. But they’re not going to stay
on. Just sayin.’
3. Something
special – When I had my son, a friend gave me
the coolest personalized canvas print from Personal Creations. I loved it so
much that I ordered one for my daughter. Another friend of mine and mother of
two, Whitney Abuzeid, said, “The southern girl in me loves anything and
everything monogramed.” Just do a little research to make sure it’s exactly the right name.
4. Diapers
and wipes – Not exciting, but oh-so-useful. Katy
Shadid, another local mom of two, just threw a diaper and wipes baby shower for
a friend having her second girl. Why? “One of the most expensive parts of
having a baby is providing diapers and wipes. Essentially a family spends about
$50 a month on diapers and wipes.” Nuf said.
5. Something
that helped you – If you’re a mom, maybe someone gave you an
item that made a big difference. One of my friends, a nurse, made me a first
aid basket. Priceless. Also, popular books discussing sleep and other
first-time parent questions are big hits. Another mom mentioned putting together a basket of favorite children's books. LOVE that. Maybe you had luck with a Halo Sleepsack (adore it!) or a certain brand of binkies. There's no time like the present to share it.
Just remember, in gift-giving, what worked for you
may not work for everyone. Something you think is cute (pink zebra-print
leggings) may not be the taste of another momma’s. Best advice I can give? Include
a gift receipt. That way, you will always give the perfect gift.
For a list of stores in and around Edmond carrying baby items, click here.
Thursday, June 20, 2013
Summer fun part two - Arcadia adventure
Okay, so you read last week's blog and managed to hit every family hotspot Edmond has to offer. Right? No really, you did, didn't you? Well, I'm not going to give you the third degree, but I do hope you put some time and energy into constructing the perfect Edmond playdate, because this city is pretty great.
But maybe you're ready for an adventure. Not an "eight hours in my car while my kids scream for McDonald's" adventure, but something quite a bit closer to home. In fact, it's just a hop, skip, and a jump over I-35. Technically, a good part of the area is still Edmond, in case you were wondering.
That's right. I'm talking about Arcadia Lake and the surrounding sites. Maybe you've visited them, and maybe you're certain you've had all the fun there is to be had. But if I were a betting woman, I'd say at least one item on this next list would go down in your "haven't done it yet" column.
So check it out...
Morning activity...The question is, what can't you do at Arcadia Lake? Actually, the answer depends on what you have at your disposal. For some activities you will need a boat or watercraft of some sort. However, if you don't have a water-worthy vessel on hand, don't despair. Paddle boats are available for rental, and fishing and hiking are free (once you pay the lake entry fee). Horseshoes, volleyball nets, and tents can also be rented.
Picnic lunch...Well, you are already at the lake, so you might as well take advantage of the numerous pavilions available for rental. Take your favorite eats and enjoy the shade, and bring some colored chalk, bubbles, or a T-ball set to occupy little ones who finish eating early. Oh, and as I always like to remind picnickers, don't forget those paperweights! Oklahoma wind plus baggies equals mass littering.
Afternoon cool down...Spend you afternoon at the Arcadia Round Barn, a historic site certain to give those rambunctious children something of interest for an hour or so (and make for some ah-mazing photos). The town of Arcadia has several historic sites, but chances are, if the kiddos are under 10, viewing old buildings won't be high on the to-do list. Instead, check out the nearby Parkhurst Pumpkin Patch, which offers a petting zoo, pony rides, and activity fort. (open Thursdays through Sundays)
Family-friendly eats...There is one place you are not going to want to miss, whether it's for lunch, dinner, or a quick afternoon snack. POPS is a landmark in Arcadia, with it's giant sixty-six foot tall soda bottle. The restaurant offers an old-school fountain service, hand-dipped ice cream, and a gift shop that will definitely having you using the word "no" every few seconds. But the bright colors and personality of this friendly place make it one of Arcadia's must-dos.
But maybe you're ready for an adventure. Not an "eight hours in my car while my kids scream for McDonald's" adventure, but something quite a bit closer to home. In fact, it's just a hop, skip, and a jump over I-35. Technically, a good part of the area is still Edmond, in case you were wondering.
That's right. I'm talking about Arcadia Lake and the surrounding sites. Maybe you've visited them, and maybe you're certain you've had all the fun there is to be had. But if I were a betting woman, I'd say at least one item on this next list would go down in your "haven't done it yet" column.
So check it out...
Morning activity...The question is, what can't you do at Arcadia Lake? Actually, the answer depends on what you have at your disposal. For some activities you will need a boat or watercraft of some sort. However, if you don't have a water-worthy vessel on hand, don't despair. Paddle boats are available for rental, and fishing and hiking are free (once you pay the lake entry fee). Horseshoes, volleyball nets, and tents can also be rented.
Picnic lunch...Well, you are already at the lake, so you might as well take advantage of the numerous pavilions available for rental. Take your favorite eats and enjoy the shade, and bring some colored chalk, bubbles, or a T-ball set to occupy little ones who finish eating early. Oh, and as I always like to remind picnickers, don't forget those paperweights! Oklahoma wind plus baggies equals mass littering.
Afternoon cool down...Spend you afternoon at the Arcadia Round Barn, a historic site certain to give those rambunctious children something of interest for an hour or so (and make for some ah-mazing photos). The town of Arcadia has several historic sites, but chances are, if the kiddos are under 10, viewing old buildings won't be high on the to-do list. Instead, check out the nearby Parkhurst Pumpkin Patch, which offers a petting zoo, pony rides, and activity fort. (open Thursdays through Sundays)
Family-friendly eats...There is one place you are not going to want to miss, whether it's for lunch, dinner, or a quick afternoon snack. POPS is a landmark in Arcadia, with it's giant sixty-six foot tall soda bottle. The restaurant offers an old-school fountain service, hand-dipped ice cream, and a gift shop that will definitely having you using the word "no" every few seconds. But the bright colors and personality of this friendly place make it one of Arcadia's must-dos.
Thursday, May 30, 2013
Fielding the tough questions - being a parent when disaster strikes
Once upon a time, I lived near the Warren Theater in Moore, Oklahoma. That's why, when the devastating tornado churned through the city last week, I held my breath and watched with clasped hands. I have family and friends in the area, and my thoughts, like anyone else's with "people" in Moore, were frantic with worry.
Well, the people I know survived the storm, but several family members attended the funeral for one of the tornado's victims--a nine-year-old boy. In addition, people from the area have told me that seeing the pictures on TV is one thing, but viewing the damage up close, in the area where you live your life everyday, requires some adjustment.
As a parent, I worry about the effect of the news coverage on my own young children and have strived to keep my viewing to the morning and evening hours when they are asleep. But storm damage is something most Oklahoma kiddos will witness at one point or another, and being prepared to answer the big questions from our little ones is another part of preparing for severe weather.
First of all, it's probably a safe bet that most kids are going to be curious about what a tornado is. The challenge is achieving comprehension, as many young children don't understand words like "instability" or "air pressure." However, Discovery Kids does a nice job explaining the science in kid-friendly terms here, and I also would recommend the Science Museum of Oklahoma, which has some great displays for hands-on learning.
But for most of us, talking about the science of a tornado is the easy part. It's what a tornado does--the lives lost, people injured, and homes destroyed--that gives us cause for anxiety and sadness. For little ones, the aftermath of a storm may overwhelm, so here's a few things you can do when disaster strikes.
1. Limit viewing of media coverage, and be a good role model. Jackie Shaw, Director of Edmond Family Counseling, has fielded questions from parents regarding best courses of action in the event of a tornado like the one in Moore. She encourages parents to do two things: one, limit their viewing of media coverage of the tornado. Children in the Oklahoma City area will be exposed to images of these tragic storms in each stage of the recovery process, so turning the television off can help limit anxiety. Also, a parent's own reaction--negative versus positive, or fearful versus hopeful--can greatly influence a child's reaction to an event like this.
2. Think in terms of how your child thinks, not how you think. My preschooler tells me she is sad sometimes, sometimes she is scared, and sometimes she is "weally, weally happy." Shaw suggested that when the questions do start to come your way, try to phrase your answers in the language you've heard your child use before.
3. Prepare yourself to answer the question, "What happens when people die?" Everyone will experience losing someone they love, and some of us experience it early in our childhood. The National Institutes of Health has put together a great resource for dealing with the subject, no matter the circumstances. And sometimes, it's okay to say, "I don't have the answer to that one."
The important thing to remember is that your child looks to you for how to respond to life's most difficult situations. That's certainly a great deal of pressure, but in some ways, it's also reassuring to know that a parent can exercise such a positive influence. And if you can show your child that there is joy and hope in the midst of sadness, then you will be teaching them a valuable lesson they will never outgrow.
Well, the people I know survived the storm, but several family members attended the funeral for one of the tornado's victims--a nine-year-old boy. In addition, people from the area have told me that seeing the pictures on TV is one thing, but viewing the damage up close, in the area where you live your life everyday, requires some adjustment.
As a parent, I worry about the effect of the news coverage on my own young children and have strived to keep my viewing to the morning and evening hours when they are asleep. But storm damage is something most Oklahoma kiddos will witness at one point or another, and being prepared to answer the big questions from our little ones is another part of preparing for severe weather.
First of all, it's probably a safe bet that most kids are going to be curious about what a tornado is. The challenge is achieving comprehension, as many young children don't understand words like "instability" or "air pressure." However, Discovery Kids does a nice job explaining the science in kid-friendly terms here, and I also would recommend the Science Museum of Oklahoma, which has some great displays for hands-on learning.
But for most of us, talking about the science of a tornado is the easy part. It's what a tornado does--the lives lost, people injured, and homes destroyed--that gives us cause for anxiety and sadness. For little ones, the aftermath of a storm may overwhelm, so here's a few things you can do when disaster strikes.
1. Limit viewing of media coverage, and be a good role model. Jackie Shaw, Director of Edmond Family Counseling, has fielded questions from parents regarding best courses of action in the event of a tornado like the one in Moore. She encourages parents to do two things: one, limit their viewing of media coverage of the tornado. Children in the Oklahoma City area will be exposed to images of these tragic storms in each stage of the recovery process, so turning the television off can help limit anxiety. Also, a parent's own reaction--negative versus positive, or fearful versus hopeful--can greatly influence a child's reaction to an event like this.
2. Think in terms of how your child thinks, not how you think. My preschooler tells me she is sad sometimes, sometimes she is scared, and sometimes she is "weally, weally happy." Shaw suggested that when the questions do start to come your way, try to phrase your answers in the language you've heard your child use before.
3. Prepare yourself to answer the question, "What happens when people die?" Everyone will experience losing someone they love, and some of us experience it early in our childhood. The National Institutes of Health has put together a great resource for dealing with the subject, no matter the circumstances. And sometimes, it's okay to say, "I don't have the answer to that one."
The important thing to remember is that your child looks to you for how to respond to life's most difficult situations. That's certainly a great deal of pressure, but in some ways, it's also reassuring to know that a parent can exercise such a positive influence. And if you can show your child that there is joy and hope in the midst of sadness, then you will be teaching them a valuable lesson they will never outgrow.
Thursday, May 23, 2013
Memorial Day: Time to remember, time to set an example
I can't remember when I first learned the meaning of Memorial Day. I'm certain the significance was imparted to me by my parents early on, as my family, like many others, have a deep respect for our military. However, for many years, to me it was a weekend of barbecues, ice cream, and end-of-school excitement.
Then I married a soldier.
My husband has been out of the Air Force for almost seven years now, but my time as a military wife had a great impact on the gratefulness I have for the men and women who gave the ultimate sacrifice--their lives--but also for the ones who live and serve our country every day, by forfeiting time with their families, turning down jobs with higher incomes, and sacrificing the ability to stay in one location while their kids grow up. It is not just the men and women who selflessly serve, but their spouses and children who dedicate their lives to this country.
Certainly, as an adult, I feel deeply appreciative of such sacrifices, but how can I begin to emphasize to my children, who are both so little, how important our military--specifically our soldiers and their families--are to the stability of our own lives and the protection of our freedoms? It's not like I can look my toddler in the eye and say, "You need to show appreciation." I'd probably just get a Cheerio thrown at my head.
But thanks to some ideas that family and friends have shared over the years, I do have a list of activities that can help me create a sense of gratitude in my kids. It may not be an immediate epiphany for them, but there's nothing like repetition and hands-on experiences to show them how much some are willing to give in service to the USA. Here's the short list:
1. Pick a famous war hero and talk about his or her story. Nothing speaks to kiddos like a good story, and we have plenty of brave and heroic soldiers in our history. Do a little research and find a fun, exciting way to tell a particular man or woman's story (don't forget to start at childhood, as this is the most relatable for kids). Then, to make it stick, help your kids draw pictures and piece together something--a notebook or album--that can be taken out and rediscovered every year.
2. Visit a memorial or cemetery. Nothing says "remember" like a memorial or tombstone. We may not be in Washington DC, with it's dramatic war memorials and the striking, sobering Arlington Cemetery, but there are places nearby that are tangible reminders of sacrifice. Ardmore boasts the Military Memorial Museum, located within the Greater Southwest Historical Museum, and both Fort Sill and Fort Gibson offer military cemeteries. Closer to Edmond is the Stars and Stripes Park at Lake Hefner, with busts of Bob Hope (a big supporter of the USO) and Dwight Eisenhower (a former soldier and president).
3. Write a letter to a soldier. Writing a letter and sending a care package through an organization such as Letters to Soldiers is a effective way to tell a soldier up front how much you appreciate him or her. The process of putting a package together or writing an encouraging letter can be exciting for a child of any age, and it's not something they're likely to forget.
4. Sponsor a small fundraiser for a charity dedicated to soldiers and/or their families. A lemonade stand, bake sale, or yard sale are all easy methods for raising a small sum of money to send to one of the many charities that support soldiers and their families (just make sure to research the charity to ensure the money is going where it should). This is a way for children to understand how we as citizens can make a difference for those who give so much.
And now all that's left to do is follow my own advice. Perhaps I can tackle all four of these, or maybe just one. The thing is, it's no use writing about it otherwise. Actions speak louder than words.
Happy Memorial Day.
Then I married a soldier.
My husband has been out of the Air Force for almost seven years now, but my time as a military wife had a great impact on the gratefulness I have for the men and women who gave the ultimate sacrifice--their lives--but also for the ones who live and serve our country every day, by forfeiting time with their families, turning down jobs with higher incomes, and sacrificing the ability to stay in one location while their kids grow up. It is not just the men and women who selflessly serve, but their spouses and children who dedicate their lives to this country.
Certainly, as an adult, I feel deeply appreciative of such sacrifices, but how can I begin to emphasize to my children, who are both so little, how important our military--specifically our soldiers and their families--are to the stability of our own lives and the protection of our freedoms? It's not like I can look my toddler in the eye and say, "You need to show appreciation." I'd probably just get a Cheerio thrown at my head.
But thanks to some ideas that family and friends have shared over the years, I do have a list of activities that can help me create a sense of gratitude in my kids. It may not be an immediate epiphany for them, but there's nothing like repetition and hands-on experiences to show them how much some are willing to give in service to the USA. Here's the short list:
1. Pick a famous war hero and talk about his or her story. Nothing speaks to kiddos like a good story, and we have plenty of brave and heroic soldiers in our history. Do a little research and find a fun, exciting way to tell a particular man or woman's story (don't forget to start at childhood, as this is the most relatable for kids). Then, to make it stick, help your kids draw pictures and piece together something--a notebook or album--that can be taken out and rediscovered every year.
2. Visit a memorial or cemetery. Nothing says "remember" like a memorial or tombstone. We may not be in Washington DC, with it's dramatic war memorials and the striking, sobering Arlington Cemetery, but there are places nearby that are tangible reminders of sacrifice. Ardmore boasts the Military Memorial Museum, located within the Greater Southwest Historical Museum, and both Fort Sill and Fort Gibson offer military cemeteries. Closer to Edmond is the Stars and Stripes Park at Lake Hefner, with busts of Bob Hope (a big supporter of the USO) and Dwight Eisenhower (a former soldier and president).
3. Write a letter to a soldier. Writing a letter and sending a care package through an organization such as Letters to Soldiers is a effective way to tell a soldier up front how much you appreciate him or her. The process of putting a package together or writing an encouraging letter can be exciting for a child of any age, and it's not something they're likely to forget.
4. Sponsor a small fundraiser for a charity dedicated to soldiers and/or their families. A lemonade stand, bake sale, or yard sale are all easy methods for raising a small sum of money to send to one of the many charities that support soldiers and their families (just make sure to research the charity to ensure the money is going where it should). This is a way for children to understand how we as citizens can make a difference for those who give so much.
And now all that's left to do is follow my own advice. Perhaps I can tackle all four of these, or maybe just one. The thing is, it's no use writing about it otherwise. Actions speak louder than words.
Happy Memorial Day.
Thursday, May 16, 2013
2013 VBS Breakdown
I'm not going to spend a lot of time chattering this week. I know, I know. You'll really miss my wit and awesome one-liners, but this week I've got serious business to attend to.
That's right. Vacation Bible School. You know, that week-long, generally FREE, camp-like event that gives you time to check a few things off that to-do list. Or shop. Or get a hair cut. Oh yeah.
So, here's this year's schedule, in alphabetical order. I've included a few churches in North OKC that serve our community and are large enough to provide some pretty spectacular programs.
2014 Dates (check back for updates)
Crossings Community Church - June 9 - 12
First Christian Church of Edmond - June 9 - 13
First United Methodist Church of Edmond - June 16 - 19
Henderson Hills Baptist Church - June 9 - 13
New Covenant United Methodist Church - July 15 - 19
Quail Springs Baptist Church - June 23 - 27
Sante Fe Presbyterian - June 2 - 6
St. Elijahs's - June 16 - 20
St. Monica Catholic Church - June 9 - 12
So sign up quick. From experience, these spots go fast! And as always, I'm happy to add any program I've missed.
That's right. Vacation Bible School. You know, that week-long, generally FREE, camp-like event that gives you time to check a few things off that to-do list. Or shop. Or get a hair cut. Oh yeah.
So, here's this year's schedule, in alphabetical order. I've included a few churches in North OKC that serve our community and are large enough to provide some pretty spectacular programs.
2014 Dates (check back for updates)
Crossings Community Church - June 9 - 12
First Christian Church of Edmond - June 9 - 13
First United Methodist Church of Edmond - June 16 - 19
Henderson Hills Baptist Church - June 9 - 13
New Covenant United Methodist Church - July 15 - 19
Quail Springs Baptist Church - June 23 - 27
Sante Fe Presbyterian - June 2 - 6
St. Elijahs's - June 16 - 20
St. Monica Catholic Church - June 9 - 12
So sign up quick. From experience, these spots go fast! And as always, I'm happy to add any program I've missed.
Thursday, May 2, 2013
Pediatric dentistry - Because we all hate the whirrrr sound
Okay, I'll admit it. My daughter likes juice. And suckers. And "bean beans" (jelly beans).
It's not a recipe for anti-cavity success.
Some pediatricians recommend you take your child to the dentist as early as one year of age. So, even though my preschooler has a horror of anyone coming within ten feet of her with medical equipment, it's past time to get that little mouth of teeth checked out and cleaned. When my pediatrician suggested we do this sooner than later, I gave her my "you've-got-to-be-kidding" look. Was she not hearing the same screaming I was? For a stethoscope? But of course, as usual, the doctor is right. And when Dr. I'm-smiling-but-I'm-dead-serious-here mentioned that our area has some great pediatric dentists, I figured it was time to buckle down and do some research.
So why go to a pediatric dentist as opposed to a dentist without the specialty? According to the American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry, " A pediatric dentist has two to three years of specialty training following dental school and limits his/her practice to treating children only."
But what if you really like your family dentist? Well, some practices will have a pediatric dentist on staff, but not all. Then it's up to the parents whether they want an office that caters only to children (with waiting rooms and offices that I imagine are high on the primary color spectrum), or with someone they have a history with.
But, in the spirit of getting you started, here are links to Edmond dentists listed as having a specialty in pediatric dentistry. I also recommend you talk to your child's doctor for a recommendation, or even do some word-of-mouth research. And, when you finally take junior in, just remember how much you like going to the dentist, especially your feelings toward the seizure-inducing whirrrr sound of that electronic polisher, and have the tissues and bribes ready to go.
Edmond Pediatric Dentists
It's not a recipe for anti-cavity success.
Some pediatricians recommend you take your child to the dentist as early as one year of age. So, even though my preschooler has a horror of anyone coming within ten feet of her with medical equipment, it's past time to get that little mouth of teeth checked out and cleaned. When my pediatrician suggested we do this sooner than later, I gave her my "you've-got-to-be-kidding" look. Was she not hearing the same screaming I was? For a stethoscope? But of course, as usual, the doctor is right. And when Dr. I'm-smiling-but-I'm-dead-serious-here mentioned that our area has some great pediatric dentists, I figured it was time to buckle down and do some research.
So why go to a pediatric dentist as opposed to a dentist without the specialty? According to the American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry, " A pediatric dentist has two to three years of specialty training following dental school and limits his/her practice to treating children only."
But what if you really like your family dentist? Well, some practices will have a pediatric dentist on staff, but not all. Then it's up to the parents whether they want an office that caters only to children (with waiting rooms and offices that I imagine are high on the primary color spectrum), or with someone they have a history with.
But, in the spirit of getting you started, here are links to Edmond dentists listed as having a specialty in pediatric dentistry. I also recommend you talk to your child's doctor for a recommendation, or even do some word-of-mouth research. And, when you finally take junior in, just remember how much you like going to the dentist, especially your feelings toward the seizure-inducing whirrrr sound of that electronic polisher, and have the tissues and bribes ready to go.
Edmond Pediatric Dentists
Children's Dentistry of Coffee Creek
Coffee Creek Family Dentistry
Edmond Pediatric and Teen Dentistry
Martha Garzon, DMD, MS Edmond OK Children's Dentist
Good luck!
Thursday, April 25, 2013
Calling Mary Poppins – Three necessities for finding your next babysitter
Your best friend calls and says it’s time for a
girls' night. Your husband has chanced upon not-to-be-missed Thunder playoff
tickets. Your mom/dad/aunt/uncle/grandparent needs you to hang out at the
hospital while they undergo a procedure. Your kid has just spilled milk on the
floor for the FOURTH time today, and you are one crushed animal cracker away from
cracked.
And when you do finally find the right fit, there’s nothing better than the feeling of hitting babysitter gold. Then it’s just a matter of keeping them on speed-dial and not giving their names to competitors—ahem—I mean, other parents.
It’s time for a babysitter.
Unlike Mary Poppins, who will float down to your door with an umbrella, smile, and a bag full of junk for your next garage sale, most babysitters—the good ones—are hard to come by, with parents guarding their sitter’s contact info better than their own social security numbers.
But you don’t have to rely on word of mouth or your teenage neighbor with pink hair to get you some peace and quiet. You just need a little help. So here are three checkpoints for ensuring your sitter is more Mary, not Scary, Poppins.
Unlike Mary Poppins, who will float down to your door with an umbrella, smile, and a bag full of junk for your next garage sale, most babysitters—the good ones—are hard to come by, with parents guarding their sitter’s contact info better than their own social security numbers.
But you don’t have to rely on word of mouth or your teenage neighbor with pink hair to get you some peace and quiet. You just need a little help. So here are three checkpoints for ensuring your sitter is more Mary, not Scary, Poppins.
1. A clear background check. You
can find sitters who have already had background checks on services such as
caregiver.com and sittercity.com. In addition, the Edmond branch of College Nannies and Tutors contracts with a nationally certified criminal screening company
that runs courthouse records checks on all of their applicants. Better safe than
sorry, although they do have some crazy fun nanny cams these days.
2. Training.
The second item on the list is concerned with how a sitter handles emergencies.
Ask your sitter if he or she has received any babysitting, CPR, or first aid
courses. If not, and you really like the sitter, let them know that the
American Red Cross provides babysitting education online, and that CPR and
first aid courses are offered at most hospitals. Then make it a condition for
employment, especially if you’re looking for a long-term candidate.
3. Personality.
Finally, a babysitter should love what they do, and they should enjoy playing
with your kids, whatever age that is. Texting, surfing the web, and talking on
the phone aren’t acceptable behavior, and you’ll be able to tell, by talking to
your kiddos (if they're old enough), whether the sitter was interactive and fun. Of course, this
usually takes a trial run, but don’t be afraid to lay down ground rules. Remember,
teenagers need money. If you pay a fair price (and you’ll have to ask around
for the going rate), most sitters will try to meet your expectations.
And when you do finally find the right fit, there’s nothing better than the feeling of hitting babysitter gold. Then it’s just a matter of keeping them on speed-dial and not giving their names to competitors—ahem—I mean, other parents.
Thursday, April 18, 2013
Edmond summer camps - Get yourself on the shortlist
Next week, I've got some fun info for you on finding your perfect babysitter (also see May 2013 Community Connections). But this week, I thought I'd start your summer planning out with a helpful list on what camps are available in the immediate area for kids and teens.
Now, I have to tell you--the first time I saw something called "princess" camp or "pop star" camp, I snaughed (which entails snorting and laughing at the same time). I mean seriously, someone wants me to pay for my daughter to have more attitude? More snaughing. But then, after rounds and rounds of Disney's Princess Sofia and my daughter turning everything into a microphone, I thought, just maybe, that these camps could be kind of fun. If anything, I'm curious what the benefits could be (and whether the princess camp might save me watching multiple episodes of Princess Sofia talking to various woodland creatures).
Then again, princess and pop star camps are just the tip of the iceberg on what Edmond has to offer the little star(s) of your life. From sports to ballet, this town has it covered. The list below is certainly not comprehensive (and I'm happy to add any I've missed), but it should give you a good taste of the variety from which you and your child can choose.
Artic Edge Summer Sports Camp (ages 7 and up) (morning workout, basketball, and ice skating; weekly activities include swimming, martial arts, hip hop dance, arts & crafts, hockey, ping pong, gymnastics, ballroom dancing, cheerleading, and skateboarding)
Camp Cadence (ages 6 - 13) (horseback riding)
Dance Phase (princess & pop star camps)
Edmond Public Schools (school-specific camps, clinics, and leagues)
Edmond Racquet Club (ages 5 - 16) (tennis)
Edmond Soccer Club Recreational Camp (boys and girls of all ages)
Farm & Ranch Day Camp - Parkhurst Ranch (ages 6 – 12 and 4 – 5 years if accompanied by an adult) (horsemanship/pony rides, plant/harvest vegetables, and nature walks and crafts).
Fine Arts Institute of Edmond (ages 3 - 14 years) (art and theater)
Francis Tuttle Summer Quest (ages 11 - 14 years) (art, web design, babysitting, robotics, cooking, and more)
Kickingbird Tennis Center (ages 4 and up)
Mad Science Camps (1st - 6th grade)
Upstage Theater (ages 5 - 15) (theater)
YMCA of Edmond Summer Day Camps (ages 5 - 12) (arts and crafts, recreational swimming, indoor and outdoor sports, drama, reading, games, interest centers and weekly field trips as well as other specialty activities including dance, martial arts, photography, theater, sailing, and scrapbooking)
For more on this year's summer camps, see the Just Us Kids by the publisher of the Edmond Sun.
Now, I have to tell you--the first time I saw something called "princess" camp or "pop star" camp, I snaughed (which entails snorting and laughing at the same time). I mean seriously, someone wants me to pay for my daughter to have more attitude? More snaughing. But then, after rounds and rounds of Disney's Princess Sofia and my daughter turning everything into a microphone, I thought, just maybe, that these camps could be kind of fun. If anything, I'm curious what the benefits could be (and whether the princess camp might save me watching multiple episodes of Princess Sofia talking to various woodland creatures).
Then again, princess and pop star camps are just the tip of the iceberg on what Edmond has to offer the little star(s) of your life. From sports to ballet, this town has it covered. The list below is certainly not comprehensive (and I'm happy to add any I've missed), but it should give you a good taste of the variety from which you and your child can choose.
Artic Edge Summer Sports Camp (ages 7 and up) (morning workout, basketball, and ice skating; weekly activities include swimming, martial arts, hip hop dance, arts & crafts, hockey, ping pong, gymnastics, ballroom dancing, cheerleading, and skateboarding)
Camp Cadence (ages 6 - 13) (horseback riding)
Dance Phase (princess & pop star camps)
Edmond Public Schools (school-specific camps, clinics, and leagues)
Edmond Racquet Club (ages 5 - 16) (tennis)
Edmond Soccer Club Recreational Camp (boys and girls of all ages)
Farm & Ranch Day Camp - Parkhurst Ranch (ages 6 – 12 and 4 – 5 years if accompanied by an adult) (horsemanship/pony rides, plant/harvest vegetables, and nature walks and crafts).
Fine Arts Institute of Edmond (ages 3 - 14 years) (art and theater)
Francis Tuttle Summer Quest (ages 11 - 14 years) (art, web design, babysitting, robotics, cooking, and more)
Kickingbird Tennis Center (ages 4 and up)
Mad Science Camps (1st - 6th grade)
Upstage Theater (ages 5 - 15) (theater)
YMCA of Edmond Summer Day Camps (ages 5 - 12) (arts and crafts, recreational swimming, indoor and outdoor sports, drama, reading, games, interest centers and weekly field trips as well as other specialty activities including dance, martial arts, photography, theater, sailing, and scrapbooking)
For more on this year's summer camps, see the Just Us Kids by the publisher of the Edmond Sun.
Thursday, April 4, 2013
Shhh!!! The parents' guide to taking junior to the movies
So, my husband and I had the opportunity to see Silver
Linings Playbook a few weeks ago (thank you Mimi and Papa, babysitters
extraordinaire!), and I was pretty darn excited for some grown-up time. Of
course, before the previews even started, we both became aware of a little
girl, maybe about three-years-old, sitting with her mom or grandma a few rows
back.
- A site where films are rated by age. Heads up on this--most movies out there are suggested for teens and older.
- Tips for taking your child to the movie theater. This includes packing snacks, which made me chuckle. My purse is like a travel-size vending machine already.
- Advice from an expert on the issue. Age three seems to be the time when parents can start testing the waters, although Silver Linings Playbook, in my book, still isn't preschool-friendly.
I scrunched up my face. “Not appropriate,” said I. My
husband just shrugged. He’s not as judgey, which made me wonder:
What is appropriate
when it comes to taking kids to a movie theater?
Well, there are no easy answers here. When it comes to what
age you can bring your baby/toddler/child into a theater, it’s pretty much up
to a parent’s discretion. And movie theaters don’t have specific rules beyond
asking you to leave if your baby is disrupting the show for others. Some
theaters offer Mommy/Baby showings of certain films, but then a parent has to
consider if the volume level or experience is too much for a small child.
Well, I applied my super-duper web-hunting skills to the
task and found there are plenty of sites out there who want to help. Here are a
few resources I tracked down with my good friends, Bing and Google.
- A checklist for deciding if a movie is
appropriate for your particular child. Although, the first checkbox--watching the movie first--may be difficult. I mean, I'm not going to see The Croods twice.- A site where films are rated by age. Heads up on this--most movies out there are suggested for teens and older.
- Tips for taking your child to the movie theater. This includes packing snacks, which made me chuckle. My purse is like a travel-size vending machine already.
- Advice from an expert on the issue. Age three seems to be the time when parents can start testing the waters, although Silver Linings Playbook, in my book, still isn't preschool-friendly.
When it comes down to it, most of us really do want to do
right by our kids, so making sure a movie is kiddo-friendly isn’t a bad idea.
And deciding whether your child can sit still and function as a good audience
member is important too. Because, let’s face it, are you really going to enjoy
that movie if someone like me is shooting you scrunchy faces the whole time?
Okay, so maybe I’m a little preachy. I know how hard it is to be tied to the house when the third
(fourth?) rendering of Iron Man is
coming out. But have no fear, those kiddos grow up fast (so I’ve been told),
and sooner or later, you’ll be trying to decide if their movie is appropriate for you.
Thursday, March 7, 2013
How to survive a cold (over and over and over again)
My husband and I call our two young children the Ebola
monkeys. I know this seems harsh, but let me assure you it is a term of
affection. Mostly. The thing is, ever since we had kids, we've had an up-close-and-personal
relationship with those twins, Nyquil and Dayquil, and I can't remember any
week during the past four winters where I wasn't wiping snot from someone's
nose.
In fact, just last week, I finally caved and took myself
to Mercy’s Quail Brook Clinic (which also happens to be home to my
longsuffering primary care physicians). The visit was triggered by a nasty
earache. The doctor prescribed a round of antibiotics and steroids, as well as
plenty of fluids and rest. I nodded my head on “fluids.” I barely stifled a
laugh on “rest.”
(We’re parents. Resting occurs in those small moments
when I’ve parked at the grocery store and the kids are still intent on the
hundredth round of Dumbo playing on the minivan’s DVD player. I think I’ve
managed to lay my head on the steering wheel for up to two minutes before the
yelling for a cookie begins.)
Anyway, I’ve compiled a short list for surviving whatever
round of the cold you’re on. The information comes from my former life as a CDC
employee, childcare workers, and good old fashioned common sense. Because at
this point, preventing colds is a little pipedream only a person living on his
or her own (without Ebola monkeys) would try to sell me.
- Rest. Okay, so this is difficult to accomplish, but when suffering from a cold, you can give yourself a fighting chance by going to bed on time (or, if your kids are sick, finding ways to make them sit and relax as opposed to running around outside in the wind). And stay away from activities as much as possible. This not only keeps your immune system from combating further attacks, but it keeps you from spreading your fun little germs to others.
- Medicine. Antibiotics are awesome, but not always. Colds are often caused by viruses, so antibiotics aren’t going to do squat for those illnesses. However, if your cold leads to something else, such as a persnickety earache, you need to talk to a doctor about treating the infection. Here’s a list of urgent care centers to help you get seen in a pinch. Of course, if you’re dealing with a virus, over-the-counter cold medicines may not cure you immediately, but they sure make those symptoms a lot easier to handle.
- Wash, wash, and wash some more. Finally, fighting colds still comes down to avoiding germs through good hygiene. This feels like pushing a rock up a hill when you have little ones who have a special knack for giving you a hug and then sneezing directly on your face, or sticking their fingers up their noses and then touching every surface in your house. But Clorox and Lysol are happy to help us out with antibacterial wipes, and the praises of handwashing can’t be sung enough.
So keep your chin up. Spring is almost here. :)
Thursday, February 28, 2013
At Mother's Day Out programs, everyone wins
This is a very exciting time of year!
And it’s not because of the promise of warmer weather,
St. Patty’s day parties, or aisles and aisles of Easter candy at your local
grocery store. No, the end of February is exciting for another reason
altogether.
It’s time to register those little ones for a Mother's
Day Out program.Let me explain. I love spending time with my kids. Yes, they are crazy little people with a special ability to drive me crazy, but I just love the heck out of ‘em. But the fact of the matter is, they suck the productivity right out of me.
As a part-time worker from home and a full-time mommy,
I can’t accomplish much of anything when my kiddos are at the house. Even if I didn’t have any paid work to
complete, I would still struggle to get the house clean, run errands, and
schedule doctors’ appointments (oh, and retain a small amount of my sanity),
without a small break.
Enter the Mother's Day Out program, of which there are
many in this area (see list here). These school-like
programs are short (about four to five hours a day), and a child can be
enrolled anywhere from one to five days a week. Unlike daycare, MDO programs
have fixed drop-off and pick-up times, much like a formal preschool, as well as
a set curriculum and a calendar that reflects the school year. Some accept students as young as three
months, and most programs go up to four years of age.
Why is this good for me? Well, I can complete my work
without worrying about someone waking up from naptime, and I can manage to keep
the house marginally clean without my baby chewing on electrical cords while I
accomplish my tasks. Best of all, I can run errands without the toddler bringing
me a toy every two minutes, saying, “Mommy, I need this.”
But that’s not the only reason I endorse these
programs. In fact, this year I’ve had my baby at home, so my productivity has
suffered as I dedicate a good portion of my toddler’s MDO day to playing things like "peek-a-boo" with
the baby. But the value of the program is not diminished. Becky Scharf, director of Stepping Stones MDO in Edmond, says it best. MDO programs teach children “to get along with other children, the value of sharing, and a sense of independence while venturing out on their own for a few hours a day.” In addition, she explains the programs are excellent for jumpstarting a child’s education.
All I can say is, I’m sold. So I’ll be getting the
kiddos all signed up, ready for another year of meaningful fun and a chance for
me to take a breath and say: “Everything will get done.”
Thursday, February 21, 2013
It takes one to know to know one – Saving your sanity through parenting groups
It’s hard being a parent. There are days when the crying/whining/yelling is enough to drive you to crazy land. And in that moment, when you start threatening your kids with early bedtimes, no dessert, or a Wii-free week, it’s all you can do to not lock yourself in the bathroom and sing “We’re Not Gonna Take It,” at the top of your lungs.
Guess what? You’re not alone.
I don’t know why I’m always surprised to discover that other parents’ kids drive them just as nuts. We love our kids fiercely, but potty training is the devil, temper tantrums are frequent, and problems with sharing (from birth to the teen years!) are par for the course. If I didn’t take the time to connect with other parents, I wouldn’t know how similar my experience is to everyone else’s. And I’ll tell you what, realizing I’m not suffering alone is really, really, really great.
In fact, many mental health professionals endorse the process of building friendships with other parents. I talked to Carla McAuliffe, a licensed professional counselor for Edmond Family Counseling, and she told me parenting groups are helpful because “They can give parents a gauge on what is normal behavior in children and teens.”
So, in an attempt to show you how quickly you can connect with other parents, I’ll even offer some possibilities to help you get started (see links here).
Online – Of course, you must be careful out there in cyberland, but sites like Meetup.com have a variety of groups for every kind of parent, from stroller joggers to uptown shoppers!
Your friendly neighborhood church – Whether it’s Sunday school for parents, an evening Bible study, or a moms-only group, many churches in the area, both large and small, offer opportunities for parents to connect.
Neighborhood facebook, workout classes, workplace lunches, etc. – Sometimes, the best way to meet parents like you is to find ones with similar geography, hobbies, or careers. Often, if you want to form a group of parents who can lean on one another, you have to initiate it. But you’d be surprised at the positive response—I promise.
So go forth and make friends. Yes, I may sound like your mom on your first day of kindergarten, but that’s because she knew what she was talking about.
As C.S. Lewis said, “Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one.’”
Guess what? You’re not alone.
I don’t know why I’m always surprised to discover that other parents’ kids drive them just as nuts. We love our kids fiercely, but potty training is the devil, temper tantrums are frequent, and problems with sharing (from birth to the teen years!) are par for the course. If I didn’t take the time to connect with other parents, I wouldn’t know how similar my experience is to everyone else’s. And I’ll tell you what, realizing I’m not suffering alone is really, really, really great.
In fact, many mental health professionals endorse the process of building friendships with other parents. I talked to Carla McAuliffe, a licensed professional counselor for Edmond Family Counseling, and she told me parenting groups are helpful because “They can give parents a gauge on what is normal behavior in children and teens.”
So, in an attempt to show you how quickly you can connect with other parents, I’ll even offer some possibilities to help you get started (see links here).
Online – Of course, you must be careful out there in cyberland, but sites like Meetup.com have a variety of groups for every kind of parent, from stroller joggers to uptown shoppers!
Your friendly neighborhood church – Whether it’s Sunday school for parents, an evening Bible study, or a moms-only group, many churches in the area, both large and small, offer opportunities for parents to connect.
Neighborhood facebook, workout classes, workplace lunches, etc. – Sometimes, the best way to meet parents like you is to find ones with similar geography, hobbies, or careers. Often, if you want to form a group of parents who can lean on one another, you have to initiate it. But you’d be surprised at the positive response—I promise.
So go forth and make friends. Yes, I may sound like your mom on your first day of kindergarten, but that’s because she knew what she was talking about.
As C.S. Lewis said, “Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one.’”
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